What the earth human being generally and casually thinks of love is not even an iota of the true reality concerning love and in often cases, the earth human thinks love means some sort of sacrificing, obsession, cravings, possession, bondage, entrapment, submissiveness, feelings and emotions, and other unmentioned factors, all of which have nothing to do with love itself but may involve effects of causality and degenerations that have taken hold of the rational thinking. Love in itself is a neutral-swinging-fine-wave-energy that is formless and exists firstly in the spiritual consciousness-psyche which is then radiated into the material consciousness as energy. However, the energy itself is of a neutral-basis, meaning that it must find a form (thought), in order to be expressed. This is why the idea that "love is pain" is absolute erroneous nonsense and only corresponds to what the human being's material-intellectual thinking makes of the true-love energy which is given to them. This means it is fully possible a human being can experience true love but it does not automatically mean they know how to use it with skill and mastery.
Yet more must be discussed in regards to love because love in itself could almost be compared to loading gas in a car, the car in this analogy being the thought. Therefore the thoughts could indeed be of a romantic love but by no means is true love limited to romantic love, and, can find its expression in various forms such as friendships, brotherly and sisterly love, motherly and fatherly love, art, goals, aims, dreams of all sorts, and practically almost every conceivable thought and action because truly, love is limitless in its possibilities of expression. It must also be mentioned that it is fully possible that a human being who has never even entered into any official romantic relationships can know of and experience true love far more than a human who has been with multiple people. It is by no means a requirement or a need that one is with someone to understand true love and such thinking is part of the overall problem of humanity's stupid thinking in regards to love which is why love continues to evade earth humans time and time again because of their sheer arrogance and ignorance.
The idea that true love is a neutral-radiating-fine-spiritual-energy-state seems 'inhuman' to the ignorant, yet, such is exactly the case, though it is not possible to fully comprehend the entirety of Creational-love with human thinking brains because the more one studies the fabric of reality, the more one realizes ALL is Love as Petale mentioned in Decalogue. The earth human casually mistakes their feelings and emotions to be love, but it must be said that this is utter nonsense and has nothing to do with love, rather, what is made with the love if the love is to be felt at all. Feelings are generated from the thoughts, thus if the thoughts are of an illogical, especially spiritually-illogical nature, then, naturally, the feelings are also of an illogical and detrimental nature. Same is also applied to the emotions which are pent up, unattended feelings which can be triggered by various stimuli and circumstances.
It must also be said that the idea that love 'just comes', as if god or some mysterious force of the cosmos suddenly enlighten the human to get lucky is also nonsense, because, the higher the love-power the greater the attractive force. Yet, development of higher love-power can never come from a lazy, thoughtless human being who relies on dumb philosophies which relies on random happenings and occurrences, when in reality, most of what these stupid philosophies talk of has much to do with subconscious and unconscious factors which are helping to manifest circumstances and situations which, to the untrained rational-material-only-intellectual human being, seems as if it is some miracle or sudden occurrence. Such humans would then go on to claim that 'it just happens', as if one is to just lazily and thoughtlessly not use the love-power-energy given to them.
The truth is that love-power is not the end of the process in regards to generating and evolving love, for the love-power is firstly acting, in analogy, as an energy source or gas and the thinking must use this energy, which can be utilized in thoughts about practically anything, including, but not limited to, the dreams, goals, aims, thoughts of loved ones etc. The more one utilizes this love-power then the greater their consciousness becomes and by extension, the greater and healthier the psyche grows which in turn radiates neutral-positive energy back to the Gemut (spiritual counterpart to the psyche) and so, the benefit of this love-power operates in circular fashion for both spiritual and material existences benefit.
Yet again, it must be strongly pointed out that development of higher love thus requires using the brain which is why idle, it-just-happens-thinking human beings can never, ever generate much love-power beyond the basics because these lazy human beings refuse to actually use their brain. This isn't to say that a human being unaware of these words cannot generate the necessary love-power without the education, yet it is increasingly more difficult for human beings who are ignorant of the consciousness and the spirit. Love-power must find its expression in order for it to be pushed to its highest possible potential which is why the personality of the human being has specific impulses, likes and dislikes, it attracts itself to. This is also a very important matter, for there is also the delusion that "looks don't matter" and "personality is all that matters", which is also nonsense and pure hypocrisy.
The truth is that each and every human being has preferences, even if they claim otherwise. Such is natural and necessary in order to bring about the evolution of the love-power to its highest relative potential. Human beings who may be under the self-created guise that they do not focus on looks, or even personality, and wish to be with a 'spiritual' person, as an example, still have a preference whether they wish to confront this fact or not because the idea of being with a 'spiritual' person is still a personal need or desire, and thus, a preference. Same also applies to those who claim to only go after what appears to be a physically unattractive person. This too is a choice, essentially, a preference.
Yet this goes even further because there are also human beings who have the wild idea that loyalty, commitment, reliability etc. are somehow not preferences because they aren't visibly tangible factors. But lo and behold, loyalty, commitment, reliability, enjoying someone's warmth, laughter, kisses, words, sweetness, kindness, and really, the whole 9 yards, are all preferences regardless if the human being wishes to confront this fact or not. Thus, all human beings have preferences, and no one is holier than thou even if one is to observe other human beings who would seemingly appear as artificial getting with each other. That is not any other human being's place to judge because while it may even seem deadly for such attractions, it's possible that those human beings may need that attraction for their evolution and to even develop understanding of true love.
Yet there is more that must be explained for the human being needs these preferences in order to go about pushing their evolution which is why these impulses even exist in the first place. Of course, these impulses can be used incorrectly and greatly degenerate into materialism taking preference over the high values and the love-power which is where most spiritual snobs become overly judgmental. Each human being is given the certain impulses from their ego or personality in order to deal with, refine and make these impulses into that which is of love, good, beneficial, and neutral-positive-equalized. Thus, these impulses should never be condemned because the consciousness can be like a child, especially if it is untrained, and rebel against an oppressive nature on itself which is often confused as 'discipline'.
Well, such is also utter nonsense and discipline in no way corresponds to a bondage or a damnation on the self which is precisely why the human being should learn how the consciousness works in order to play by, and, bend its rules. But this requires much strenuous and arduous effort, a task which many earth humans consider too much, too long-winded, a waste of time and so forth, and, this is even greatly multiplied when it comes to true love and loving connections which many victim-based minded human beings become spoiled and rotten. It's easy to identify victim-based minded human beings as those who appear outwardly weak, yet, such human beings can also be human beings who also cleverly mask themselves and appear as nonchalant, cool and aloof.
No love is randomly given to any human being, even if they'd like to believe such a fantasy. The truth is that the human brings all factors into their life and their love-power has a great deal to do with what comes their way and exactly how this love-power is or isn't used. Therefore thoughts, visualizations, dreams and so forth of a positive-beneficial nature are of high significance and importance in order to properly generate the love-power in a healthy, balanced and stabilized way. Of course, this can even be confused for obsession which has nothing to do with love, rather, of desperation and other fearful factors. True love must utilize a physical expression, hence the importance of the dreaming, fantasy and imaginative worlds.
The more the human being can use their imagination, their wishful dreams, which are of course better as wishful dreams to be realized, fantasies, ruminations, and other positive and good thoughts and so forth, then the more they can stimulate and imbue their entire thought-feeling-psychical-world with true love and true love-power. Such a human being becomes increasingly an attractive force and with such love-power, moving mountains is no longer an impossibility, rather, a practicality. Again, the only way for the human being to truly understand love is to truly utilize their brain in a positive-equalized wise in order to bring forth the power to its highest relative potential and perfection.